Achieving the Pregnancy Experience, You Always Wanted￼

Be open to help and support as it could change your experience for the better

Photo by Jameel Pugh

The saying “a closed mouth doesn’t get fed” is one of the most accurate statements I’ve ever heard. What does it mean? If you don’t ask for what you need and want, you will not receive it.

I’m not sure if anyone else can relate, but I often have difficulty asking for and accepting help. Not because I don’t want it or don’t feel that I deserve it, but because I don’t want to inconvenience anyone. If there’s one thing that I’ve learned, most people are willing and able to help, especially those who care for you.

As Black women, we are often the bearers of life’s circumstances, taking on more than we would like to, but I am here to encourage you to express your needs to trustworthy sources. You never know how it may benefit you.

Pregnancy is one of those times in life that require support on all levels. There is nothing to be ashamed of or feel burdensome. We can all use a helping hand and sometimes that hand can be the reason you have positive experiences. It’s also crucial to understand that your needs will improve you and your baby’s life.

Photo by: Jameel Pugh

Black Mothers United program participant and first-time mom Daija Gordon is a testament to how being open to discussing your pregnancy and accepting help can improve your life. She became aware of the program after one of the pregnancy coaches’ daughters discovered she was pregnant. A familiar connection has now resulted in Ms. Gordon obtaining her desired resources. She explained, “having a doula, or midwife, or pregnancy coach is something that I always wanted to do. I just didn’t really know how to find the resources for it.”

Now that Ms. Gordon has learned of the resources she has access to as a participant in the BMU program, she feels more confident and at ease on this pregnancy journey. The importance of an easeful pregnancy is exceptionally significant, considering Black women lead in the statistics for dealing with mortality and racial disparities.

Ms. Gordon’s experience is only one example of the help out there and how it can be easily accessible if you communicate your needs. It is also equally important to seek help and let those you encounter know precisely what you’re looking for. If you do, you’re one step closer to achieving the pregnancy experience you’ve always dreamed of.